The trauma of the loss of your loved one, co-worker or comrade is something you could never have foreseen when you met and fell in love.

The heartbreak of this time can overpower and sink even the strongest of couples. (from "Healing Together: A Couple's Guide to Coping with Trauma & Post-Traumatic Stress" by Suzanne B. Phillips and Dianne Kane)

Thankfully, there are gorgeous organizations that reach out to help navigate this painful time in addition to the strength and enormity of support from the first responder and military communities, family and friends.

However, in between visits and meetings, there's just the two of you.

Facing your new normal.

Uncertain if the pain will subside or if the darkness will ever lift from your life.

I've been there too along with my husband Rich.  We are the surviving brother and sister-in-law of New York State Trooper Kevin Dobson who died in the line of duty in Buffalo, NY on March 26, 2011.

In the years since Kevin's death, we have struggled like never before, but we have also grown and found new meaning in our lives. It took us much trial and error and almost losing our marriage to emerge from our darkest days together. Stronger. More grateful for waking up each day.

I am currently taking all of the hours of research, our own personal successes, missteps and best practices and testing an idea to see if there's interest from other survivor couples for me to create an online product offering customized to address some of the biggest challenges couples face as they heal together from trauma and post-traumatic stress after the loss of a first responder or military officer. 

I'd love to have your feedback by participating in this brief survey. If you prefer to answer the questions in more depth via email, please contact me at [email protected] 

The results of this survey will help me shape a new program if response indicates a need for it. 

Thank you so very much for your time and participation!

Stay safe.

much love,

Melissa Dobson

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